I wrote this in a private group but it struck me that the whole world needs to hear this: Being shocking at thinking deeply about how others might feel and not being able to look at things from others’ perspectives is not about autism, it’s called being a psychopath and it’s a human trait that exists throughout all neurotypes. Autistic people are usually highly sensitive people (as are some non autistics) and we often can’t handle how much we *are* good at this imagining how stuff feels for others, and how we need extra time to process this. Or we may even put things on hold until we have enough space to deal with them.
I believe an autistic person *can* be a psychopath just as an non autistic can be but a lack of empathy is not a sign that someone is autistic just as empathy is not a sign that someone is not.
If someone is not reacting outwardly the way you would expect them to think more about how timing is different in our brains and language is tied up in all this and we may want to use exactly the right words and not just plump for commonly used ones.
Once the world stops thinking of autistics as cold, aloof and unresponsive we can begin to heal the pain caused by years of misunderstanding and this in turn will help us to feel less broken and unloved because we are incredibly tough on ourselves and the discourse around autism is often derogatory among us too as we turn in on ourselves with negative thoughts. I see amazing, sensitive autistic women deprecating themselves on a daily basis and they shouldn’t. They are wonderful