I do not find you at your grave,
Although I stand and read your name.
You’ve gone but still I search for you
Where are you now your life is through?
My hands on the arms of your favourite chair,
Yes, I think you might be there
My heart it aches with love for you
You own a part – you’re in there too
A happy photo smiles at me
This is where I want you to be.
A line in a song and I see your face
And remember a walk in your favourite place.
The love you left will never die
Your life lives on in your family’s eyes.
I’ll always miss your company
But you live on in them and me.
There is no end to the love that is you
In others your life lives on, and through
Your life you left enough
That we might see and hold and touch.
I rest my head now we’re apart
And remember that which was dear to your heart
Your values, dreams and chosen words
Can still be felt and still be heard.
I take a moment in my mind
To think about the happier times,
The thoughts and loves that we both shared
Forever I will find you there.
Written on Wednesday 16th February 2011 – The morning of my Father-in-Law’s death, while thinking of my husband, my mother-in-law and sister-in-law’s loss, my mother’s, my own and my sisters’ loss and my brother-in-law (who has also just lost his father) and his family’s loss –
I want this to be relevant to others feeling similar losses so although written with specific personal thoughts and people in mind, have kept it simple, open and accessible and have naturally been influenced by other bereavement poems.
In front of me is a picture of my own father who died two years ago.
In loving memory of Dave Carter, Chris Wood, Roy Johnson
and the many others who are sadly missed